While at the surface, our love was intense and passionate, and our feelings felt as accurate as the pain you feel when your heart breaks, our personalities were incompatible beyond reason, and the timing was much worse. But believing this was the only person I felt like I could ever marry for the 1st time in 32 years, I decided to fight against all odds, including my intuition and better judgment, to stand by him through thick and thin, neglecting my own physical, mental and emotional health, subconsciously hoping that once, he received a certificate claiming his divorce, and get employed, probably at much less a hierarchy than his ego would allow, my health would be gifted back to me, as a deserving price. Yes, he was unemployed too, for years before I met him, for over two years that I was with him, and even ages after we called it quits.
These genuine and honest fears about his monetary and marital status became a community concern, and he announced our severe status to our family and friends. Despite this being a public affair, literally, I could not express my dilemmas, even to him, lest he throw an anger fit, break cutlery, bang his head on walls, and cause physical distress to himself and mental and emotional trauma to us both. So, as a silent yet resilient Indian woman does, I swallowed my sorrows, put on my best poker face, and bravado-ed through it all, like several million women did or do every single day.
But to what end? To the end of my physical strength, which further broke my mental confidence and emotional sustenance. Being unhealthy for the first time hit me hard, and the outrageous amount of obesity crushed my motivation for the first 1.5 years. But our bodies are beautiful things, and mine adapted and arose strength within me to carry almost 20kgs on me from the depths of my bones that I didn’t even know I had.
After acclimatization to both my physical and relationship status, I decided to kick obesity’s ass to the curb. But the body reminded me that while it adapted to my new physical existence, there was a price to pay. And soon enough, I sought bedrest due to spinal wear and tear.
Four months later, I was advised to take the slow recovery route through only Pilates and swimming. Determined to conquer my relationship and physical health and undeterred in the face of my challenges, I treaded slowly on the path ahead of me, persevering.
BUT, something’s gotta give right — and that was my relationship. When my body started sinking into its original state, my mental abilities seemed to be returning, too, along with my suppressed and ignored feelings. Without realizing it, I subconsciously charted a self-sabotage plan to invite the death of my relationship and the death of my relationship self.
Voila! I was successful, healthier, and, most importantly, more aware of my mental and emotional states, carving yet another sturdy but slow path toward my spiritual journey. One I will be thankful to him forever for.
Eventually, this led me to become a Mindfulness Coach and taught me everything I know about the connection between investing in the physical, mental, and emotional self — especially in the digital age.
Gaining my confidence made me react better than I thought to the breakup. I carried on my physical routines more religiously than ever, channeling my emotional outlets into them and receiving endorphins afterward to ensure I stayed committed.
But a few months into the breakup, his digital presence returned to my life, and for some time, I caught the hopeful disease that it might work out again. Hence, we began our digital interactions since he was in another country then, and even in the same city as mine, interactions remained strictly online. Staring at my phone, stalking his profile, and self-exhibition on social media were only some of the unhealthy patterns I acquired, along with an obsessive inkling to remain constantly connected to him in some or another.
This again affected my eating, sleeping, and physical exercise habits, which I had worked incredibly hard to regain and sustain. But this time, I knew better. I could sense myself going down the rabbit hole again, but this time, I was more aware, alert, and au courant than ever. I was more suspicious of his words, actions, and behaviors, and I even gave my intuition more credit than him, quickly helping me realize that this was never it- not before, not now, and won’t ever be. I wasn’t going to sit at my desk all day, slouching, hunching, skipping meals, and slipping into sleep to go back to the still-married and still-unemployed man who still didn’t want to be with me but was happy to string me along to feel better about himself.
Hence, I broke the short but all-consuming habit again and never looked back.
As a marathon runner, exercise buff, and Mindfulness Coach, I have learned much about the relevance of investing in one’s physical self to see holistic benefits in one’s life. Still, I know how hard it is to be consistent, especially in today’s capitalistic and digital age.
Unleash Your Potential: A Guide to Physical Well-being
Imagine boundless energy, a sharp mind, and a strong body. This isn’t a dream; it’s achievable through investing in physical well-being. While you don’t need to be a professional athlete, the core principles are surprisingly simple. This guide explores the “why” and “how” of building a solid foundation for physical health, drawing from Eastern philosophies and scientific research.
A Multifaceted Approach
Neuroscientists emphasize activities that promote brain health, such as exercise, puzzles, and quality sleep, for memory and cognitive function. They also highlight stress management techniques, like meditation or yoga, for overall well-being.
Sports and nutrition experts recommend regular physical activity for weight management, strength, and reducing chronic disease risks. They advocate for a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean protein, and healthy fats. Adequate sleep and recovery time are crucial for muscle repair, hormonal balance, and overall well-being.
Challenges and Solutions in the Digital Age
Our sedentary lifestyles and information overload can be hurdles. The solution lies in incorporating small movements throughout your day, finding enjoyable activities, and utilizing fitness apps or professional guidance. Schedule workouts, find a workout buddy, and acknowledge the challenges to overcome them.
Eastern Philosophies: A Timeless Approach
Eastern cultures emphasize a holistic connection between mind and body. They advocate for a simple diet rich in fresh, local foods, regular movement (yoga, tai chi, walking), and mindfulness to cultivate healthier habits.
Sleep: The Unsung Hero
Sleep is vital for physical health. During sleep, your body repairs tissues, strengthens the immune system, consolidates memories, and regulates hormones. Prioritize quality sleep by establishing a consistent sleep schedule, creating a relaxing bedtime routine, and limiting screen time before bed.
Eating Right: Quality over Quantity
Focus on nutrient-rich, whole foods like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean protein sources, nuts, seeds, and legumes. Limit processed foods, embrace variety, and practice mindful eating to avoid overeating and make healthier choices.
The Protein Powerhouse: Strength Training Matters
Strength training builds and maintains muscle mass, which is crucial for metabolism, bone density, functional movement, and reducing chronic disease risks.
Listen to Your Body: Personalized Plans
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Consider your fitness level and goals, and consult a healthcare professional before starting a new program to minimize injury risks and maximize results.
Track Your Progress: A Roadmap to Success
Monitor your workouts, sleep patterns, and food intake. Tracking progress motivates you, helps identify trends for improvement, and allows you to set realistic goals. Celebrate milestones to stay on track.
The Digital Age: Challenges and Solutions
The digital age presents challenges like a sedentary lifestyle and information overload. Embrace movement throughout the day, find activities you enjoy, utilize technology for tracking and motivation, and seek professional guidance. Schedule workouts, find a workout buddy, and acknowledge the challenges to make physical activity a regular part of your life.
Final Thoughts: A Journey, Not a Destination
Investing in yourself isn’t about a number on the scale; it’s a lifelong journey of empowerment and transformation. Embrace small changes, listen to your body, find joy in movement, and adopt a holistic approach. Surround yourself with supportive people, and remember, consistency is critical. As you embark on this journey, you’ll unlock energy, resilience, and a newfound appreciation for your incredible body. Invest in your physical well-being; it’s the most critical investment ever.
